EVERYONE has seen those clichéd Hollywood movies where the “High School” is divided into all the different groups. Each group carries the title of “Jocks”, “Geeks” or “Freaks”, depending on just how clichéd the movie actually is.
These titles don’t actually fit any of the groups in the real world. There are really just friendship groups, and even though they don’t carry the same complicated titles, don’t think for a second that they aren’t just as hard to understand.
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Most people tend to gather a group of friends over time. Particularly when you are at school, all these friends tend to merge into one and you all end up becoming friends. Then you all rely on each other.
For people not in the know, you would think that this would be great because you will always be left with a friend to turn to. Normally it is very handy, because that way it won’t be just you and your computer screen left alone in your room.
But then the group dynamics begin to play a part in your everyday social skills. When you belong to a close knit group of friends, you can’t invite one friend from the group. You have to invite everyone.
Yes, everyone.
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Now, I don’t know about you but this can get pretty complicated, especially when you are among girls and social media.
This means that if you want to invite one girl from the group somewhere, you are left with two options.
Either you could just stay away from all social media for the entire day – which includes no selfie taking or snapchat stories – or you could run the risk of inviting everyone else as well and hope that only one is actually available.
Neither of which is ideal.
The reason that you can’t just advertise the fact that not all of the group are hanging out together, is that feelings can get hurt. I know that I have been in the situation where I find out that two or three people from my group of friends are hanging out without me, without asking me.
Because if they actually asked, and I was busy with other elements of my social life, it would be totally okay (told you it was just as complicated ).
So we could either hand pick our friends and make sure that they will never all get close, so that the next time we text one we don’t have to do so with the “Group Dynamics” manual sitting next to us; or we could just rewire our minds not to over-think everything in the universe.
I know this is really some sort of female group situation, because really the guys can just ask one guy out for a pint and not think much of it.
*Sigh* You have it so easy.
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