FIRST day in my new school was not nearly as nerve-wracking as I expected.

Despite the first few minutes spent awkwardly bumping into other people, it all seemed to work out okay.

Which is actually quite a big deal, as social situations aren’t usually my forté. Especially when they involve people around my own age.

I have gotten a lot better, as I have made a vow to not go in with my arms crossed or with my head stuck on my phone. I guess I realised, how are other people expected to actually interact with you if you leave yourself totally closed off?

If you go in with a smile on your face and make the effort to communicate with other people, then your chances of actually being comfortable and relaxed are dramatically increased. Obviously the smile is not mandatory if it is early on a Monday morning. Or any early morning really.

If you are one of those people who get nervous or anxious when approaching any situation where you have to step out of your comfort zone and speak to people that you may not know/like, then stepping outside the door can appear challenging.

Now I am not one to promote the use of any medication, so I guess you just have to deal with your tummy doing a million and one somersaults along with that lovely nauseous feeling. Or you can knock back a motilium if you really want too. I recommend the fast melts 😉

There of course is no need for these nerves, (despite what those butterflies in your stomach are telling you) as shockingly enough everyone is not actually out to get you. This just takes a little more convincing when you are faced with a room of teenagers; we can be known to judge…

Everyone goes through the same anxiety that is brought upon by overthinking everything; so if everyone is experiencing it, there is no need to fear it.

The fact is that if you leave yourself open to other people, then you are more likely to be okay with all social situations. So even on this cloudy Wednesday morning, try to step into every situation with an open mind and the best smile that you can muster.

If you can be the one to start that first conversation with someone, fair play to you. I’m pretty sure that no one was injured in the process, and you probably felt some of the nerves fall away afterwards.

I’m not quite asking for that black magic known as confidence; but I think if we all make an effort it could turn out okay.

(Of course being sociable with people and making the effort only applies after you have read this article, because what’s more important than reading the beautiful little piece that I put together for you each week…)

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